Miles & Yvonne - Sapphire Program Early Wins

Sapphire Program Quick Wins - Miles & Yvonne, Bristol UK

Miles & Yvonne, who live in Bristol with their 2 children and their dogs, and who are both busy working in their Coaching Business, joined our Sapphire program in January 2022. 

They have their wedding coming up in July, and they absolutely didn’t want to continue, and to begin married life, with the arguments and stresses that were causing them to feel separate and disconnected. 

After only 1 week Miles & Yvonne wrote this:  

Miles wrote: 

Hey, This week I’ve discovered that I know very little about what Yvonne needs from me and have everything to learn, and I’m committed to doing whatever it takes to understand her so she can feel loved by me. 

We’re loving the Sapphire Program and we’ve done the 1st training which was really good:) Since then I’ve been trying to really focus on my own mindset/ bag of shit/past trauma and understand how that might be impacting Yvonne. I can see how it might have affected her in the past with how I’ve been! 

It’s also good to understand that Yvonne has her past experiences which may cause us to see things differently sometimes.

It’s not been a great week in our relationship, to be honest - probably worse! 

But I’m seeing this is like the painful muscles after your first workout in a while…it gets better the more you do!

Yvonne wrote:

Morning guys, and thanks for creating this WhatsApp group for us 4 and checking in… firstly I’m absolutely loving the training and how you both explain things is so clear. I agree with Miles this first week has been tough… 

Since watching the 1st Training I’ve probably been overanalysing myself thinking that I am just this person that lives in the red! 

I hate being judgemental but coming from a South London council estate with people who drank, smoked, took drugs, shouted, fought… it's no wonder I feel this way…it’s like I’ve tried to re-write my story to not be that way, but my subconscious is still angry at that? 

I can be really quiet, not say a word and then when I do I blow it all comes out wrong… 

I just desperately want to feel like me again, I know I’m not concentrating on what Miles’s needs are…will keep going and keep you posted xxxx

And, after Miles & Yvonne had done a few more Trainings, and checked in with us for more clarity, and had lots of support

Yvonne said: 

“I Just wanted to say we’re great, and I’m feeling much better, I think something has shifted. I still have wobble moments where I’m beating myself up internally but watching another training last night really helped us. I will keep you posted x 

 Thank you for both being amazing and helping me and Miles have an outstanding relationship rather than a good one ”