David & Lauren - Emerald Program - Back Together
Emerald Program Relationship Turn Around - David & Lauren, London UK
David was divorced with 3 children and was in that space where Tony was, all those years ago, when he said “I’m never getting married again, it was all too painful”.
Lauren, was, that famous phrase, ‘young, free and single’ and looking forward to a fabulous relationship, marriage and babies.
David’s finances and his ability to manage his own time seemed massively complicated and frustrating, whereas Lauren could go where she wanted, whenever she wanted to.
No wonder after only a few months together, and both having had a low level of belief that this could ever work, they separated and gave up.
They kept in touch and when they met up they decided to try again, knowing that they needed help. Neither of their past relationships had been happy, in fact, they agreed when we later shared our famous phrase, ‘no wonder we’re not good at relationships, nobody teaches this at school or university!’
Lauren was very excited to get started on the program, David less so. He believed, “you work things out yourself, and you keep your dirty linen private”
After the 1st session and a couple of days into the Emerald Program David wrote:
“Although I was not sure about this before even the initial zoom gave me ways to speak about my concerns, and my feelings about my kids, and about me and Lauren. The program has got me to stop panicking that I would somehow have to choose between the two”
After a couple of weeks in Lauren wrote:
“We completely lost its today!! It was like old times, arguing and both trying to be right. Having already learnt tools to deal with these fallouts has helped. We talked about our frustrations and it all calmed down very quickly. I’m loving the times we are spending together instead of dreading them.
Of course, as in many new relationships, planning how to introduce your new partner to your family can be a tricky time.
David wrote at this time:
“I’m learning a lot - I get that I go to frustration too. I know that Lauren really struggles with my old life and I want to understand her needs but I have a lot going on. Hopefully, the next training will give me more to sort that out!”
In perfect timing, David & Lauren then learnt our philosophy of how a healthy, masculine man and a healthy feminine woman need to operate to create a healthy intimate relationship.
After a couple of months David wrote:
“We’re doing good. And, the very positive side of all this is that I feel like I’m showing my kids a different side of me - a lot less frustration and anger, and much more love and understanding, especially towards their mum”.
And Lauren wrote:
“We are now so much more honest and relaxed with each other, and I love that we’re learning this together. The 24/7 support is invaluable, as we can ask you questions and share problems and get help fast if we can’t solve them ourselves. It used to affect us for days if we had an argument and I used to get very low. My need to know what’s going to happen in the future makes David irritable and so I am really working on trusting him and the future”
David & Lauren then spent time together with David’s kids and Lauren’s family, and it gave them many opportunities to practice all that they had learned so far.
Lauren wrote:
“i was very anxious and nervous about meeting David’s kids, he was clearly nervous about it too, so we avoided talking about it. This made it worse for me as I felt excluded.
As it drew closer I remembered how to stop making the bad pictures in my head. David was amazing in that he totally reassured me that all would be well, and he thanked me for trusting him. I don’t know how I would have coped with this without this training, I would probably have run away.”
During their next private session, David & Lauren both shared how that first meeting had gone. Suffice to say that it was a success, as David & Lauren then asked for assistance on how to create a beautiful compelling vision of their future together.
