It is an unconfirmed statistic that in 80% of relationships one or both partners are unfaithful, having sexual experiences outside of their relationship. It is sadly a common story of intimate relationships where no truth is being spoken, where
blame and justification is rife, and where pain and dysfunction leads couples to consider breaking up.
But it is also possible that, with the right education and commitment, that even this level of dysfunction can be understood and healed, and couples can get to a place where they can lovingly make decisions about their future.
Here is a story about a couple that had had secret infidelity within the whole of their 25 year marriage. It’s an amazing story about a couple, Bob and Sally, who came from the brink of divorce to finally experiencing the love they had been ‘searching for’ for 25 years.
Sadly, both of them had had experiences of sexual abuse as children which had played a big part in creating their own individual beliefs around sex and sexuality.
Of course, you don’t need to have been abused to create beliefs about sex that don’t work for you, but for Bob & Sally it had showed up in their early teens and into their marriage. Bob was driven by a seemingly insatiable need for sex, Sally was completely the opposite seeing it as dirty and unnecessary.
You see they had had no education about love, and how to have healthy intimacy.
How could Tony and I help this couple heal this situation and go forward, if that is what they both wanted? It was a journey that we trust you will go through on these webpages.
And, Bob & Sally? Well after a lot of awareness, acceptance, understanding and forgiveness Bob and Sally decided to make a go of it. They said, after their first weekend together away only six weeks later, that they had both experienced love together for the very first time.
